Living in uncertainty is the experience I have of life. As a man having the courage to be vulnerable is a challenge I accept. This male experience is one that many men aspire to. ‘Male eXperience’ is here to help you find and fully embrace it. It is within you already, it just needs to be released.

Male eXperience…

…is my experience of being a man, with its successes and failures.

…is my view of masculinity, as an example of one man’s approach.

…speaks to men about themselves, encouraging them to drop the mask.

…speaks to women about men, helping them to understand.

…helps men to create their ‘Personal Masculinity’.

…creates change, and encourages growth, in men.

Male eXperience creates men who…

…are aware of themselves, are present and accept both light and dark.

…question their motivation and see themselves objectively.

…are open to change and embrace new ideas and approaches.

…are aware of their effect on others and temper their strength as men.

…are comfortable in their ‘Personal Masculinity’.

…take action.

But first, my story…

I am Graham Phoenix, writer, speaker and world traveller. I have no home but make my home wherever I am, experiencing all that life has to offer as a human being and as a man. There are no roots I hang on to, I am not defined by anything other than the life I lead.

Leaving home, at eighteen, to work in the theatre, my world expanded rapidly. My days were spent with people who were open, exciting and dangerous, doing stimulating work that opened my eyes to people, their stories and their motivation. I entered the world of men, women and relationships and found that, although enjoying myself, I wanted to know more. My desire, in my work, was to influence people, helping them grow and change, but this wasn’t happening. Although I was experiencing life I was not growing in understanding myself. I didn’t settle for this, didn’t settle for anything. I was restless and striving to move forward, wanting to improve and grow.

Marriage and children took over my life. Up to this point the ordinary world that most people inhabited was unknown to me. I didn’t go out in the evening, I worked; I didn’t go on dates, I had sex with colleagues; I didn’t work at a career, I shifted and changed and followed my passion. My life came to a shift point, everything changed and my whole view shifted. My responsibilities as a husband and a father became important. Where before I worked and partied, now I worked and went home.

Much later several businesses went bankrupt and my marriage fell apart; although I was a success, I knew failure. Somehow the normal life I had embraced wasn’t working. I felt I was living behind a mask, I was not being the real me. Confusion reigned. Where had all this work and achievement led me? I did not have the answers. I searched for them and found the power I had within me had always been there. I met my new partner and discovered, through our relationship, my power and strength as a man. Returning to a more rebellious me, a less normal me, I felt the shift reverse and found a new peace in letting myself just be.

In many ways I have come full circle back to helping people and living with no roots, but in between I developed a rich life and a deep understanding of myself as a man. I found a deeper understanding of how I relate to others and what that means.